I was reading a article about women in marriage don't want sex. The article went on with causes and treatments. My thoughts on this is simple... Tell her to get interested or cheat. Would not waste my time and energy seeing a doctor. Now if the wife wants to go see doctors that's fine but better be giving it up or head for divorce. I am sure there are reasons why a woman may not want sex but not my problem. I am not going to suffer waiting for her to get turned on.
Quote from: Hobby on Dec 10, 2024, 08:54 AMI was reading a article about women in marriage don't want sex. The article went on with causes and treatments. My thoughts on this is simple... Tell her to get interested or cheat. Would not waste my time and energy seeing a doctor. Now if the wife wants to go see doctors that's fine but better be giving it up or head for divorce. I am sure there are reasons why a woman may not want sex but not my problem. I am not going to suffer waiting for her to get turned on.
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Me> Not having it! kick them to the curb! Damn the cost
It's why you're supposed to learn from the first divorce and never get married again. Just rent or lease. Girlfriends, friends with benefits, and/or escorts work great especially in today's society.
Isn't that why we participate in this hobby? I still love my wife even though there's no sex.
Quote from: papipunani on Dec 13, 2024, 11:02 AMIsn't that why we participate in this hobby? I still love my wife even though there's no sex.
Yep!
Exactly...... many of us are in the exact same boat!
Quote from: thaikhan on Dec 12, 2024, 09:54 PMIt's why you're supposed to learn from the first divorce and never get married again. Just rent or lease. Girlfriends, friends with benefits, and/or escorts work great especially in today's society.
Definintly cheaper to rent than to own.
Quote from: Hobby on Dec 10, 2024, 08:54 AMI was reading a article about women in marriage don't want sex. The article went on with causes and treatments. My thoughts on this is simple... Tell her to get interested or cheat. Would not waste my time and energy seeing a doctor. Now if the wife wants to go see doctors that's fine but better be giving it up or head for divorce. I am sure there are reasons why a woman may not want sex but not my problem. I am not going to suffer waiting for her to get turned on.
that's it? "Not my problem" is the only response no matter what? Sounds kind of cold and heartless if there is love, companionship and partnership still working AND that the problem is not just her choice as your scenario seems to imply. Would you be fine with her saying the same thing if your equipment stopped working? I have spoken with a few women who play outside the marriage because the husband can't perform. And the husband supports them and they remain a strong relationship.
I guess "for better or worse" is just bullshit you'd never subscribe to?
I'll second what Ifly and Papi said; we've got the hobby to mitigate the circumstances.
Quote from: Legman469 on Feb 21, 2025, 09:57 PMI'll second what Ifly and Papi said; we've got the hobby to mitigate the circumstances.
My wife went through cancer twice, both in the female areas- uterus and breast. After her mastectomy, she no longer felt like a full woman. It was difficult. I was dry for a full year when we had "the talk." She finally started sucking and fucking again, but there was no passion. Our previous 30-60 minute sexcapdes were now 10-15 minute quickies. And maybe every 3-4 weeks. Not nearly the 2-3x week we had enjoyed. She refused to go to counseling. Hell, I even talked to her mother about it along with several of her besties.
After several years I started playing on the side with women off Craigslist. Boy, do I have some stories!
Long story short- Other factors went south in the relationship and I finally left. It cost me a lot of money, one of my three kids, several "friends" (couples always side with the female), and some quality of life due to her income. WTS, I do not regret my decision to leave. I'd be miserable had I stayed and continued to pretend that everything was "fine."
Life evolves and is never the same for long.
Those that survive adapt, one way or the other.
Quote from: papipunani on Dec 13, 2024, 11:02 AMIsn't that why we participate in this hobby? I still love my wife even though there's no sex.
Let her find out what you do and no wife!
I would not include myself in that "we" since I do not have a wife that hates sex.
There's many reasons men see escorts. The above are just a few.
Quote from: dogwalker on Feb 22, 2025, 07:30 PMI would not include myself in that "we" since I do not have a wife that hates sex.
There's many reasons men see escorts. The above are just a few.
I seriously doubt from wife's point of view there are no justified reasons to cheat on her. I was married once for 7 years and never cheated on her. Looking back now I wish I had cheated on herLOL
Quote from: dogwalker on Feb 22, 2025, 07:30 PMI would not include myself in that "we" since I do not have a wife that hates sex.
There's many reasons men see escorts. The above are just a few.
So she likes it, or she's just lukewarm? lol